Elaine - thanks for that! It gives me the confidence to continue to get the information I need to make informed decisions. My doctors will learn this about me and if they can't handle it, they can't be my doctor.
I managed to get 5 minutes with my wonderful PCP this morning after the labs, and she is very supportive of having surgery first. I need to temper her enthusiasm with her opinion that she would go straight for the mastectomy. Her mom had breast cancer, so I understand where she's coming from.
She understands my need for the numbers, for the information. Maybe she'll communicate with the rest of the team, so that they all "get it." In the meantime, I will remain insistent.
Now Allison and I are going for a pedicure!